I think we’re always listening. It’s HOW we are listening that is useful to recognize. For instance…listening defensively or listening skeptically, or listening distractedly, or listening to something else, or NOT listening, which is a kind of listening! Then there is listening judgmentally, or evasively, or LOVINGLY…can you imagine, or listening kindly, or compassionately, appreciatively. What ways do you notice you are listening? It’s been very instructive for me to be able to notice and be responsible for my listening and what it causes.Recognizing the quality of our listening goes a long way toward improving our communication skills.