Are You Giving Your Self Away?…Remembering Who You Are as Love

In starting a new intimate relationship, beware of the your swooning heart and the inability to think of nothing but your new found love. Sound jaded? No, oh contraire! I just celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary, and this has been my one and only marriage. Please read on.

So often when we feel the surge of love that another evokes in our heart, we attribute the source of that surge to them, and along with it our power, losing a sense of our Self. We fall into the trap of believing that they are the source of our love. In truth, they are a loving instrument reflecting our own capacity to love. That’s their value to us and we are wise to appreciate them for showing us our heart. It would be beautiful to say to them, “I love you for helping me see the love that I am; for the love that I am capable of expressing. For that, I love you. Thank you”.

To start to feel the Love that YOU are, here is a simple experience to try. Sit quietly for 5 minutes. You may choose to have relaxing music in the background. Place your right hand on your heart and close your eyes. Bring your attention to the sensation under your hand. Just notice it and breathe.

If you have a dog or cat that you Love, they can assist in this experience. Place your left hand on them, as you place your right hand on your heart. Continue to notice and breathe into the sensation under your right hand. [It’s helpful to know that there are energy meridians that run from your heart into your hands. When you place your hand on your heart you are completing an energy circuit. Keep that in mind as you tune into the sensation under the hand on your heart.]

If you believe in God, the Divine, Higher Intelligence, as you do this exercise, try repeating, “I accept” on the inhale…”the Love of God” on the exhale. (This piece is from the book, The Way of Mastery).

You have everything to gain and only 5 minutes to lose. So give it a try.



The Light Switch to Love: Presence and Permission

I get easily overwhelmed by too much to do, too many choices and too much information. When this happens I notice a shrinking energy and hear my inner child getting freaked out! The fallout of this tantrum leaves a frozen fog in my brain, a weak feeling in my solar plexus and a jumble of loud but inarticulate warnings…something about running and hiding.

Often overwhelm is accompanied by the all too familiar Comparison-of–Self –to-Others. Look out! Now that is a lethal mix. This is where my practice begins. Overwhelm is just another shade of fear. It has been a familiar traveler in my sphere for as long as I can remember. It happened just this morning while reading about everything so many luminaries around the globe are doing to facilitate the awakening of Love in our people and on our planet. One so committed to this mission as I am, yet quietly local, gets so easily triggered into, OMG, I’m not doing enough. I need to do more to make a bigger impact, get my voice heard, change the world!!!!!!! This does wonders for the state of overwhelm, NOT! It just makes it worse.

Probably the most important gift I have received from the pain of being human is the practice of bringing presence and friendship to those uncomfortable feelings, giving myself full permission to welcome their individual complexions and feeling tones. Thanks to a gifted therapist in my mid-thirties, I learned how to befriend the many feelings that make me human, which I had locked away as not acceptable. The miraculous thing is, when I do this, those dark feelings evaporate and I am left at peace. The more often I practice, the more the trust and appreciation of myself accumulates in my system, like making a deposit into my joy and productivity accounts. With this comes and expanding confidence to weather other emotional storms born out of forgetting that the point of the darkness is to help us find the light switch.

This simple process delivered me from cluelessness to self-love, something I had no idea was even possible for me. But it was, and continues to be me my salvation to return to peace and Love within when distressed. From this practice of befriending and transmuting the darkness into Light, I can be the most authentic contribution to humanity’s transformation. It takes presence and practice. The more I do it, the more I bring it, the more I share it, the quicker it also happens ‘out there’.

The most important purpose we have is doing this work of re-membering and re-awakening to the magnificence of the Love that we are. At its foundation, the tipping point we are seeking toward a new world, a new earth depends on us finding our practiced way back to Love, one being at a time, authentically from the inside out. Without this, that which we seek so desperately at this time will continue to elude us.

Love is the highest vibration of being. We know this. For if we didn’t we wouldn’t be seeking it everywhere. Paradoxically, it’s right where we are. The practice is to learn how to flip the dark feelings over to see the Light on the other side. Befriending our feelings with full presence and permission is the light switch.

The Value of Sadness

Just yesterday I was pondering the value of sadness in my life. Today, this was shared with me. I share it with you, and I will add my thought: Sadness awakens my heart to Love and compassion. How do you hold the experience of sadness in your life? This valuable article is from The Daily Good. It also has a video presentation by Rick Hanson, author of The Buddha’s Brain.

See:The 4 Ways Sadness Can Be Good for You